A letter to my motherinlaw who hates me

Because I love him, and wish I loved you. You talk to me about your daughter, and ask me for advice. I genuinely say what my heart feels and I say it in the best of her interests.

Then I realize you asked me only to make me realize something, or to compare me and her. How to Get Your MIL to Behave and Give You the Kind of Help You Want. Mothers-in-law can be pushy.

Yours may think she knows better than you how to make a cup of tea, burp the baby or get the spot off the carpet, but it’s your beverage, your baby and your carpet, and nobody wants to be told how to do things. I have only been married to your son for a little over a year now, but the problems did not start with the marriage. They began years before the marriage. I have heard countless horror stories of relationships with mothers-in-law.

Dear Ma, After fifteen years of marriage to your only son, I realize there are a few things I may not have said to you — or that if I have said them, bear repeating. Thank you, and I’m sorry. Everyday you show me that no matter what has happened in the past, the only thing that matters is the future.

If you happen to air an opinion, she will dismiss it right away. This is a clear indication that she harbours toxicity towards you and hates you immensely.

I am so blessed to have a second mom in my mother-in-law , Daisy. I wanted to share my letter to honor her for her love and example…. But the response that simply set me back on my heels came from a nurse practitioner at the close of an exam. My spouse and I went to visit her mom for the first time at Christmas. This heartwarming letter comes from writer and mother Tina Plantamura and first appeared in the Asbury Park Press.

In the letter , she starts by scolding her mother - in - law for always trying so hard. She explaine “ My. We need a mother’s love, we need to feel included in a family, and we fear abandonment and rejection. My mother-in-law hates me” is one of the hardest sentences to think, much less say or ask for help with.

It is like a woman against another woman with no rational reason behind it. If any mother in law is reading this, I would like to ask her, why have you held up so much of hatred inside you, over the years where it could have been easily replaced by core wisdom. I know my mother-in-law wanted her son to marry that woman, not me.

A touching letter to a mother-in-law gone too soon from a daughter-in-law who wishes she could do some things differently. I have endured many a lecture from her about the evils of hair dye. You retort by reciting your mothering resume. Constantly reminding me that you have experience and wisdom.

Well, can I be frank? According to the Bible, your husband is responsible to defend you and your children. If he’s afraid to or doesn’t want to rock the boat, we encourage you to talk to him about it.

I’m not sure entirely why — if there’s a reason, neither my mother-in-law nor husband will admit to knowing it. Bloomsburg University. By putting my feelings down and getting them out of my hea I am speaking with a restored voice and know I am finally once again in control.

Stab me with a hot poker first. Try to mediate my son’s marital disputes. If you catch me trying to involve myself in my son’s arguments with his wife, give me a stiff uppercut to the jaw.

Rearrange my daughter-in-law’s house. She, like you, has a great mom who is a great mother-in-law to me. I feel bad that my wife doesn’t get the same experience but I’ve accepted there’s nothing I can do other than support my wife and help her keep distance.